Kindergartner in the Men's Bathroom? - WordFUL Wednesday

This past weekend my son joined me to check out the NYTimes Travel Show. We were having fun until my son had to use the bathroom. While that's not usually a problem, this time the line at the ladies bathroom was way too long for him to wait.

So I had to let him use the men's bathroom. Something I've been putting off till he was older. Much older. Like 20 years old. Maybe

Kindergartner in the Men's Bathroom

But this time my son couldn't wait.

So while looking him in the eye, I firmly requested he go in quickly, use the bathroom and COME RIGHT BACK OUTSIDE.

My son said OK and off he went.

Now he took less then a few minutes, but that whole time I stood there watching the door and listening. I'm not sure for what, but at the slightest indication something was wrong I WAS going IN the men's bathroom to get my son.

Thankfully my son came out with no problems. Matter of fact he was SO happy to finally use the "boys" bathroom. My son has been asking me for months to use the "boys" bathroom instead of going with me to the "girls". His reason? He's not girl!

*exasperated sigh*

Now that I've allowed him, I'm sure he'll insist on continuing to use the "boys" bathroom. But I'm no way ready to let him continue to do that. Especially not in a crowded area. But really how long can I delay this? I'm stuck at a cross road.

What age did you allow your child to go into a public bathroom alone



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27 comments:

  1. I JUST started letting my oldest go into the mens room alone - and he in nine. I didn't care what other moms thought to be honest - better safe than sorry. Now he is ok by himself and a lot of times I will have him buddy up with my younger son.

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  2. Oh man, I can relate. My son is only 2.5 and I cannot begin to imagine when I will feel comfortable letting him go in by himself. That would have been the longest few minutes in history to me. But I am sure your son was so proud of himself!

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  3. Oh my, I think it was just a couple of years ago and he is 12 now. Whenever we go to the movies, I check that he has to go before we get seated because I refuse to send him alone where he is out of my view

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  4. It is so refreshing to hear a mother say she worries about her son in the bathroom. So many let their kids just go in and don't stop to think about anything.

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  5. My son will be 14 and he still doesn't go into the mens room alone. If no family member is available for him to go with he will either make me go with him to the family bathroom or wait till he gets home. Not sure if this is because at school he was bully in a bathroom or what.

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  6. Oh I struggle with this one. Since we are in a smaller rural area, I let my boys go at age 8&9. But I still stand immediately outside the door and wait. And I make the boys go together and watch out for each other. If I lived in a bigger town I think I'd freak out and really struggle with it. its just too scary what can happen in a public restroom to kids now a days.

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  7. I just started letting my son use the mens room alone too. And yes, I have gone into the mens room with him before- I'm overprotective like that :)

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  8. I remember that and I was totally panicked the entire time he was in there. It's scary when you're used to being there!

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  9. Oh boy! Not looking forward to this situation. Mine is only 5 but will be 6 next month. I do take him out with me a lot more than his dad does so he ends up using the "girls" bathroom! I think my reaction will be similar to yours when it is time for me to let him go in the big boys bathroom! lol hahaah

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  10. It's definitely a big, scary milestone to let your son go into the men's bathroom alone!

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  11. I don't have any children, but I can imagine this would be scary (for both of you)!

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  12. I don't have children, but can imagine it must be a scary thing to start with. x

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  13. I think it just depends on the kid. My 6-year-old goes by himself but my 4-year-old still goes with me.

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  14. I have the same concerns when I let my boys use the men's bathroom. I always worry about potential predators in there. I think as long as we continue being vigilant moms, everything will be alright.

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  15. My youngest is developmentally delayed so I have many concerns about him being alone in public places. As a result I still have him come with me into the ladies room if there is no family bathroom.

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  16. That is one of the hardest things to handle as a mom. My oldest was about 9 and I was lucky as a gentleman had just left and assured me it was empty. I stood there with the door open and waited. All the men that were waiting were so kind about it and said they understood completely. They did choose to wait until I left so the door could be closed for them though, lol.

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  17. I think my daughters were around 8 or 9 when I started letting them use the bathroom alone. I am still uneasy at times, so when it's crowded, I have the 14 year old escort the 10 year old just to be safe.

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  18. It has been a long time for me since I had to worry about this. My sons are out of college. I believe it was at least 8 and of course it wasn't an issue with my second one because he had an older brother. I feel for parents of young children. So much to worry about.

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  19. I let my son start using men's bathrooms last year when he was 7. I still get freaked out though! It's probably unreasonable. I mean, it's not like the world is full of predators around every corner. They are the abnormal rather than the norm. Still, there is something about seeing my little boy go into a big bathroom full of strangers alone that totally freaks me out.

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  20. Congrats for the big boy :) I hope my little guys can use the boys bathroom when they get to 3rd grade.

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  21. My son started going into the public restroom by himself at the age of 6. I would wait for him then he still had to come into the women's bathroom with me when I had to go because I was not about to let him stand outside the bathroom alone.

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  22. I'm not sure I remember when but to be honest I don't think I ever did let him when he went out with me. Now when he's out with the entire family my husband usually goes in with them. My kids are 9 and 13 so they can double up and go as a team.

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  23. And this is a reason I'm glad we just have a girl for right now. Haha. I know I would definitely be nervous about my son going into the bathroom by himself!

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  24. Oh, I know the feeling. No kids for now, but I did work my way through college as a nanny for triplet boys, and I hated when they got big enough to go in the boy's bathroom LOL Of course, there were three of them, so I was a bit more comfortable if they went with each other...

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  25. Oh the things the kiddos say that make sense but just don't work!

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  26. I KNOW exactly how you feel I actually thought it was just me... I have 3 boys 7,6, and 3 and my oldest had to go while we were out shopping last week and we ran into the same situation the line to the womens bathroom was long so I had to let him go to the boys bathroom for the first time I actually stood at the entrance and talked to him the entire time he went just so i could hear his voice. I honestly don't know at what age I'll feel comfortable with it.

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  27. Gosh, I would say at 6 or 7? I really do not remember. It seems like it was ages ago but he's only 10, LOL! I must have seemed quite insane at the time, but I would stand by the door and keep it propped open with my foot. If he took longer than a millisecond to pee and wash his hands, I would yell into the bathroom asking if he was okay. Got a couple laughs, a few stares, and quite a few nods of approval from men as they exited the bathroom.

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